A 36-year-old non-binary and queer trans dad from Seattle has been writing about how they “took advantage of the body organs I was born with” to give birth during a one-night fling when they were going through their medical transition.
Danny Wakefield, who was born a woman but who identifies as a man, came out as transmasculine when they were 25 years old, underwent testosterone treatment for nine years, and underwent a double mastectomy in Florida throughout the transition.
People frequently interpret me as a cisgender homosexual guy, even though I identify as transmasculine rather than male. So I’m conscious that living in my identify as a transmasculine person does make me more conspicuous,” Wakefield wrote in a 2020 article for Newsweek.
Wakefield discovered she was pregnant after a one-night stand with an unnamed man in April of that year, during a bout with COVID-19.
Wakefield has not revealed Wilder’s gender because it is “part of their story.” Wilder was born in 2020.
“I’ve always wanted children, and I knew before I transitioned that I would want to carry at least one child,” they wrote.
“Often when people are transitioning, they might freeze their eggs. I also thought about how I would feed my baby when I had my double mastectomy, those small decisions had to be made, and I don’t regret them one bit,” they said.
“I don’t think I would be here with Wilder if I hadn’t taken care of myself and honored my identity back then,” they added.
Wakefield detailed what it was like being pregnant during the pandemic, which kept them home instead of going out in public on a regular basis, which “would have been quite different.”
“Despite the sickness, it was the most beautiful experience I’ve ever had. I’ve fallen in love with my body in ways that I’ve never experienced before,” they added.
Wakefield, who is also a recovering addict, has over a million social media followers after documenting their parenting journey on the website Danny the Trans Dad as well as on Instagram and TikTok accounts with the same name.
“Just because I don’t feel like a woman doesn’t mean I can’t use the body organs I was born with,” the father says in a TikTok video.
In another, he can be seen rubbing his large stomach.
“I was born with a uterus and so the world said I was girl, but I’m very much not a girl,” they wrote. “I’m also not a boy. I’m non-binary! I have the reproductive system that allows me to carry and give birth to a child, so that’s what I did. Transmen and non-binary people give birth, too.”
Wakefield told Yahoo Life that they were met with “snickers” from nurses, as well as “doubt, disbelief and a lack of knowledge” from doctors ill equipped to address their needs.
“In one instance, it took an hour and a half to get them to treat me because they didn’t believe I was pregnant,” Wakefield told the outlet.
“The doctors and nurses would talk quietly among themselves, asking each other questions about me, instead of asking me directly — the patient who’s sitting right in front of them,” they added.
Dr. Juno Obedin-Maliver, an assistant professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Stanford University School of Medicine, said Wakefield’s story is not unusual.
Obedin-Maliver told Yahoo Life that the medical establishment — and society as a whole — knows very little about pregnancy in the trans male population.
“We grow up in a world with books, from preschool on up, that have not imagined or really represented the diversity of communities as they are,” the doc explained to Yahoo Life. “None of our systems have been designed to distinguish between someone’s gender and their pregnancy capacity.”
However, Obedin-Maliver stated that this is gradually changing due to increased demand from trans patients.